Attracted to beautiful people…or women

Nice headline, right? Well, I couldn’t think of anything better, but I knew I had a lot to say about this topic. At first I didn’t feel all that great about what was going on inside my head. Then, after analyzing it a bit, I realized what the hell, this is the way that it is.

I enjoy beautiful women. Of course, I enjoy having sex and making love to a gorgeous woman, but I’m going to talk about something else today. I get energy from working with women who I find deeply beautiful—both on the inside and out. Like I said, at first I thought this was a sexist thought that ran through my head, but I really don’t think it is. Why? Because I’m not necessarily talking about society’s description of beauty, I’m talking about my version of it.

Let me give you an example. I recently was involved in a week-long seminar. I didn’t know anyone there and this woman walked up and introduced herself. Somewhere deep in my mind I found her attractive, but I didn’t feel any instant pull in my groin or anything like that. It was subtle. But then, we got to talking and we couldn’t stop. I really believe we both found each other extremely interesting. As the discussion continued and the fact that she had a husband came rolling out of her mouth, I never felt one bit of “aw shucks” or any other disappointment. Our connection continued without any uncomfortable or boring moments for the rest of the week.

The more I got to know her, the more beautiful she was. Her hair, her voice, her thinking, her wardrobe, her body, her wit, her intelligence, her smile, her energy level, her interests, her smell, her features, her story. It was all beautiful, but I swear I had only the slightest lustful thought in my mind. It went something like this: If I see all this in this woman so quickly, she must be outstanding to hold, to love and to make love to. It ended there in my mind as we probably continued laughing and talking about something else. I really think she is going to end up being a friend for life. Maybe someday we’ll work together or collaborate on something, but unless there are sweeping changes in both of our personal lives I don’t see us crossing paths in a bed. And that’s just fine with me.

I once heard Donny Deutsch, the host of The Big Idea on CNBC and owner of a huge ad agency, talk about how he loves having beautiful woman working in his office. I feel the exact same way! Like I said, it’s not all about physical attractions, it’s the complete package and I get so much energy from that type of woman.

So what do you think? To me, it’s just about personality. A woman with a great personality is beautiful to me. A super-model-type woman is usually not my style. And Sure, I go to porn sites to jack off at all the fake looking woman, but what makes me complete and fulfilled is the companionship and collaboration with women who have innumerable layers to them. There is an inexplainable energy that co-exists there.

So you’re asking…why does it have to be women and not men? Because, professionally, I think I have too much in common with men and quite honestly I don’t think men work hard enough—I mean truly put in the time that’s needed on things. Plus, men tend to have more of a competitive nature against other men that is just completely stifling. I also don’t think us men are as smart or multi-dimensional.

Maybe it’s just me, but I get most creative and productive when I’m around woman who I’m attracted to. Seeing their beauty and experiencing their personality and talents awaken all of my senses. As corny as that sounds, it’s as true as it gets.